@Neizvestnaya I can’t stand it when people listen to fools rather than from the horses mouth. Nobody knows what you are capible of but you, and too many times men fail us in seeing our potential if they would only inspire it… It sucks! I hope that you found someone who does love you. Life is very long lived with someone who doesn’t love you. I know this!
My ex actually assumed that I should be happy taking care of all of his needs, making sure that everything, every aspect of his needs were met in secure and safe assurance, but it was okay for him to make me live in fear that he wasn’t able to or wanted to come through because he never put the effort into anything other than his own interests.
We were NOT a “team” as is supposed to be, and the more he said “I love you.” and did absolutely nothing to show it, the more resentful I became.
How could a man believe that a woman is happy sitting on her duff shoveling the shit against the tide? What I needed, and what I wanted and asked for, and yelled for and never got… What the emotional, mental and physical support, that he was never once at a want for, that I in turn never once had.
His love… was likened to a rich man, handing a woman a wad of cash and saying “Here, go buy yourself something nice.” WIth the money that is supposed to pay a bill or secure a future. It was 9 years of sickness and after the pain and the shock of his “Punishment” of cheating on me, and then leaving me for his boss… I realized how it was the very best thing that ever happened to me.