Romance is in your whole approach to life and relationships. Everyone wants a special connection but if you are romantic you want it to have a certain intensity and beauty. You want to do whatever you can to make each moment special and memorable. Whether it’s candlelight, flowers, a beautiful dress, lingerie, wearing your hair that way he likes it, perfume, cooking a great meal, or eating out at a restaurant where there’s a great atmosphere….and especially making love tenderly and passionately. All of these things are just a way to bring you into a state where you are more focused on each other and able to share feelings on a deeper level. It gets rid of all the distractions and the buzzing and static of everything that draws your attention away from each other.
I think some people feel awkward about being romantic. I’m not sure if that means they just don’t experience romantic feelings or if it means they have trouble recognizing them, owning up to them and expressing them. I think most people probably believe that men have a bigger problem with being romantic than women do, but I have to disagree. I think men don’t like the fake kind of romance. They need to be really in love and then they have the inspiration that tells them what to say and do.
The romance isn’t only for the times you are together. It’s also for the times when you look back and think of times you spent together. A song or a poem might make you think of him. Or even something as funny as his favorite flavor of ice cream. Whenever you see anything that has something to do with your lover it makes you think of him. It’s not obsession, just an awareness that he is out there somewhere in the world living his day and doing his thing and since you can’t always be with him you have to settle for thinking about him and bringing him closer to you in whatever way you can.
That’s what I think being romantic is, for what it’s worth.
And I like it and I think I am good at it!!