@ANef_is_Enuf I hate to say something that does not apply to your situation. I have a situation in my own family, and I am afraid whatever I say would just be projecting onto yours, since I don’t know the details of what you are dealing with. The person in my family doing the cutting off, and limiting communication, has become an angry, bitter, anxiety ridden person. Well, this was happening already, and then she cut off to, in my opinion, protect herself. She would state it the same way, to protect herself. But, I think her extreme measures, and I mean more than just facebook, I mean zero communication with a particular family member, has not releived her anxiety, and she seems very unhappy to me. She is basically alone in life, because it has disrupted the entire family.
I can understand why she felt she needed to cut off, but now she has made her point to the relative that troubled her most. He understands she will cut off, and he does not want to be cut off. He wants to do whatever she needs to have any sort of minimum contact and she won’t. It creates a horrible situation, because when he does nothing as she asks, the situation doesn’t move. If he tries to repair it, she says he has not changed and is not obeying her boundary.
I can underatand why you felt you needed to defriend on facebook, but just, if you can, if they want to repair things, don’t hold onto the anger for too long. Try again to fix things if they seem motivated.