@partyrock Ah, see. This can be used to your advantage then. It sounds like you need to reprogram some thoughts in your head. The only thing you seem to be desperate for is the “right” answer – the one that will help you get your wish and allow you to keep your dignity at the same time. You don’t seem desperate to sleep with him, even though you want to. You are being careful and cautious. Are those the actions of a woman who is desperate for the reasons you’ve said you might seem desperate over?
You might be surprised at what a guy will agree to…. you might be surprised at how many guys would LOVE to have a relationship like the one you’ve described… with a woman who is totally willing…
You might even be surprised that if you had exactly this kind of a relationship with another guy and talked to him about it, he might even be jealous.
I understand your fears, but I think if this guy is willing to go through with your wishes and let you go as far as sleeping at his place, he wouldn’t mind having sex with you as well.
The way this society is, you’d actually be doing him a favour if you initiated it. There are several guys who keep their mouths shut about their sexual fantasies about their friends because they don’t want to be viewed as “that creepy guy” or the guy who will be accused of sexual harassment.
It’s actually BETTER if you initiate it. That way, he’d know you actually want it and he wouldn’t have to worry about offending you if he feels the same.