When I first heard about prenups, I could not imagine why anyone in his or her right mind would ever want to sign one or make somebody sign one. I viewed someone wanting to get his or her to-be spouse to sign one as a sign of disrespect… a sign of distrust… a sign that the person was already planning for divorce, should it ever happen. In that mindset, if I didn’t sign one, NO, it would not have been because I was selfish. It would have been because I DID love my to be husband and I DID trust him. It would be because I NEVER planned on divorcing him.
I had a conversation later with one of my friends about this and he explained to me why signing a prenup is a good idea and how it can actually show the other person that you trust him or her and that that can help love grow even more because it would make it clear that you love him or her for him or her, not for what he or she has. I never really thought about it that way before we had that conversation, but he’s right.
Anyway, the point I am making here is that I think it depends on the person’s intentions…. not the simple fact that he or she does or doesn’t want to sign one.