What’s “significant” about “your significant other” if fantasies of non significant others are entertained?
How can one be “intimate with your significant other” while “fantasizing about a different person”?
That is a complete lack of intimacy. You might be with them physically… but intimacy is mental… just like fantasy is mental. You’re trading the mental intimacy for mental fantasy…
I’m not suggesting it’s good or bad or what… I’m just calling it for what it is.
Intimacy promotes making love. Fantasy promotes fucking. Both have their place. Neither should be conflated for the other.