Honestly, I don’t understand the pm dynamic. I know I can get involved in pms. People pm me from time to time. They respond if I pm back. I suspect I could get involved in a lot of pms, but I don’t really try and I think I sometimes actively try not to get involved. I like my work on the boards, so to speak. I like speaking publicly, so to speak.
I once asked a question about how often other people pmed, wondering if maybe I was as unpopular as I thought I was. Back in those days, I was looking for excuses to believe I was unloved. Now, I feel more loved, so it isn’t as important to have a constant rain of pms in order for me to feel like I matter.
So, no. I don’t spend more time on pms. I think I could increase my supply of pms if I wanted to, but it does take a lot of energy to maintain those relationships. It seems more relaxing to hang out in the public sphere of fluther rather than the private sphere. For the moment, anyway.