This is why we keep the fire arms chest locked.
Well, really, this is why we don’t have any fire arms.
Honestly, I don’t know any more. In the past this created simmering resentments because we felt that the other person didn’t like us if they disagreed with us. Now I think we are more certain about being liked.
But I don’t know if we have a good system. Maybe it’s just to expect it is a process and to try to stay away from locked-in positions as much as possible. Respect for each other helps keep this from turning to resentment. Maybe a little guilt helps, too. I don’t know.
But there are things we haven’t really agreed on. Mostly not crucial things, like the color of the couch or the rug. With respect to things like the kids’ education or how we save or spend our money, we tend to agree. There are some long term issues, like whether we should leave the city for a suburban town with a better school district, but since I’ve always felt that was kind of non-negotiable, she never pushed.
The kids have suddenly put on a major push for a dog. This will mean huge changes, and yet is seems like my wife is now willing to consider it. I guess I’m considering it, too. But we have a process we are in. My daughter has a white board she brings to the table, and she has noted down all kinds of issues, so I guess we’ll work our way through them. But it is my feeling that if we have let it get this far, it must mean we are going to get a dog. Sigh.
I think a dog is good. But I’m just not sure I’m ready for this. I wonder if my daughter realizes that she has already won. I’ll have to ask her later on. I hope she remembers.