@YARNLADY I think lots of folk consider “date” and “pursue serious relationship” to be the same. I’m not arguing one way or another, but you’re both right in this case. There’s nothing wrong with going on dates that both parties agree are just for fun or platonic. There IS something wrong with looking for a serious boyfriend after you just got dumped by one.
The problem usually happens when people have two different expectations of what a date is. Because some people say it’s one thing.. they may even believe what they are saying, but they actually want the opposite.
I had a friend in college who insisted she was looking for a serious relationship, but it was obvious she wanted nothing but fun. I always insisted that I wanted nothing but fun but was always on the prowl for something serious. We both had bad luck dating because we couldn’t be honest with ourselves or the folks we dated about what was going on and what we actually wanted to happen. It probably would have been best if neither of us did any sort of dating at all until we could get real with it… but that’s another story.