I think it’s possible to fall in love with the image you have of the person, but I think that to fall in love with someone, really and truly, you have to know them, their ins and outs, what it’s like to be with them, tolerate them, they tolerate you, you learn their bad habits and good, and vice versa.
If you can, watch the HBO documentary “Catfish.” It’s about a love affair that happens through internet and phone calls, then what happens when one of the parties shows up on the other’s doorstep to meet them in person. Totally mind-blowing. Makes you realize that someone you have never met may not be who you think they are at all. It’s on HBO this month. As I said, it’s a documentary so it’s not like it has actors in it, it’s real.