Take a breath. You can do this.
Do not concern yourself with what others think of you. Do not allow your mind to dwell on thoughts like ”They’ll think I’m selfish if I tell them, No” or ”Right now I have to focus my full attention on my studies.”
Knowing you have ADD, adds yet another layer to this @Mama_Cakes. You quite literally cannot handle distractions. You need your days to adhere to a routine to ensure you stick to your path to achieve personal success.
The best way that I know to achieve this with family is to set limits. Here are the limits I have set in the past or that we currently have set with family:
-I will call you. Please do not call me between the hours of ____ to _____. That time is dedicated to studying.
-If you must email or text, please keep it polite. I cannot handle any added stress at this time.
-I am open to visiting you at an outside location (a coffee shop or bookstore) on Sundays only.
-Weekdays are mine. Weekend days between ____ & _____ I am open to making plans.
I have called family to set these limits, and I have emailed those people that I knew would need to read the limits in writing.
This is only as difficult as you make it. If you really can’t handle a phone call from a family member or a pop-in visit, you need to be explicit. Do not leave anything open for their interpretation.