In recent years I have learned to alert my family: “Just to let you know—I’m in a perfectly rotten mood today, and its better if I just stay away from everybody until it passes. Don’t worry, it’s nothing you did, and I’m not mad at you.”
When I was still a cubicle worker, I would avoid everybody and keep silent in meetings. At home, I just keep to myself.
Things I would not do:
– Try to jolly myself out of it in any way whatsoever (and anyone else who tried would catch the worst of it, for sure)
– Make a decision (wrong time for that)
– Write anything intended for an audience (letter, message, report, etc.), which would inevitably reflect my mood and outlast it, with possible damaging effect
Things I would do:
– Wallow in it
– Listen to music that matches my mood
– Write dark, angry stories in which bad things happen to people
– Go for a walk or just a long, brooding sit somewhere alone
It seldom lasts more than a day, and I don’t think my family has ever demanded an explanation. It’s just one of those things.
If there’s a real cause for it, it will last three days, and it’s a different matter entirely.