When you spend tens of thousands of dollars in the effort to have kids, you can be pretty sure you are as ready as you are going to get.
But I never worried about my readiness to have kids. Early on, I realized there are a lot of myths about what it requires to have kids that simply aren’t true. Myths about being financially well enough off. Myths about not getting over what your parents did to you.
To me the only time you know you aren’t ready is when you don’t want them. If you don’t want them. Don’t have them. You aren’t ready. You may never be ready. Don’t do it because you think you should. Do it because you want kids. If you want kids, you are ready for kids.
Bah! This notion of readiness. It’s nonsense. These two statements kind of catch the flavor of it. You are never going to be ready for kids. You are ready as soon as you want them.
If you worry about it, then you are ready, because you will learn what you need to learn. If you never worry about it, it doesn’t matter if you are ready or not, because if you get pregnant, you will most likely become a parent. You’ll do what you do. Maybe well, maybe not. In the vast majority of cases, the kid will grow up and become a self-sustaining adult.