I like the “living well is the best revenge!”-thing.
i took me four years to get over my first girl friend. i had so much pitty for myself, that it felt almost heroic to suffer…. bad move! never going to handle these situations like that anymore…
so: dont pitty yourself, remind yourself of how long life is, that every good and also every bad thing changes life for the good or the bad – however you deal with it. think of people who hav greater problems, but accept, that your problem has to hurt… if it wouldn’t, you’d be even more poor, cause there’s no more important thing in life than to love somebody. even if it hurts.
and most important: look in the mirror and imagine yourself in a year. without fear but realistic.
man, in reality there is no answere, right?