@wundayatta I agree with your first paragraph. It is not that I want a president who does not care about family. It’s like that horrible question if you can only save one of your children, or if you can only save your wife or your new born daughter, horrible questions like that. Questions honestly I think should never be asked.
Do you think Santorum would have dropped out if he were ahead? I he truly was the Republican hopeful to beat Obama? Each part of the equation counts. If God forbid one of Obama’s daughters was deathly ill (God forbid, spit three times, and whatever else we are supposed to do to ward of evil) and then war was declared on America, Obama would have to leave her side in my opinion for some amount of time to address America’s immediate emergency. If there was no crisis going on, Obama could sit vigil with his daughter for days, and reschedule his Presdiential schedule or miss an event.
You kind of contradict yourself in your last paragraph, I know I don’t need to point that out to you. A little story about my childhood: when I was young it used to really really bother me that my father raised me to never think I was limited because I was a girl. When I wanted to be a cheerleader, he said why not a football player. When I said I wanted to marry someone rich, he said you make your own riches. I never felt a profession was off limits to me because of my gender. But, he wanted my mom to have dinner ready for him when he got home, and was pissed, horrible to my mother when she suggested an easy meal once in a while because she was exhausted. It had to be a full blown dinner, a sandwich or salad one night was not good enough. He treated her all too often as someone who had to do whatever he wanted. If a boyfriend had treated me that way he would have thought it terrible. At the same time if she had had a powerful career he would have been fine with it, that is as long as his dinner was on the table. My point is, I saw it as hypocrisy. People can have all sorts of weird idiosyncrasies that are not predictable on the surface.