@Ron_C Funny you bring up Oklahoma, that is where that guy was from who said my husband was South American. LOL. I never hear anyone say nigger ever, except for one long time friend of the family who uses every type of slang derogatory word of every group ever invented. It’s part of his schtick. Not that it is ok, but that is what he does. I have never heard him call a black person a nigger, only Arabs sand niggers, blacks he uses other words. I remember the terms because it shocks me every time he says things like that because I do not know anyone else who says anything like that. Not while I was growing up, not as an adult. No one. The closest is a friend of ours who is Irish, when my husband and he get together there sometimes a joke of the mick and the spic, but it is all in good fun, and everyone around is in on the joke.
We had lots of stereotypes about groups growing up, and everywhere I lived, which we almost never hear here either. It is oddly quiet. The only time something comes up is if for some political reason white people feel like money will be taken from their pocket to help black people, or recently now there is an education/school issue where the white people are worried about dealing with black people messing up the school system. It has to do with Memphis having mich lower tests scores, and much higher drop out rates, and now school systems from Memphis ajd the rest of the county will be combined. If all those kids were white in Memphis, I think people would still be just as upset in the rest of the county. Since race and poverty go hand and hand here, it all sounds very racist.
Even the people who say racist things around me I have never heard them us the n word, or other derogatory terms about other groups, except they do say Memfrika for Memphis, which always shock me when it is said, I find it so horrific. But that is never said around black people. Are you saying in Oklahoma they us the term around black people? Don’t get me wrong, I am shocked they say it at all, but just curious, how openly racist they really are.