@ninjacolin, so you are saying the problem is that she is pushing so much and acting so (sorry @mostlyclueless but this is how I see things) desperate and insecure that he might leave her that there is no incentive for him to be more demonstrative about his love? I agree, that is quite possibly correct and the jewellery purchase supports your premise. She posts here she is feeling insecure and suddenly he buys her jewellery. I am quite certain she has also given him signals she is feeling less than secure about the relationship too. Good to have the male perspective too @ninjacolin.
Can I add too @mostlyclueless, reading your later posts, perhaps the problem is with you and not him. I agree there is probably an element of truth at least in what @ninjacolin has said but it seems to me you have unrealistic expectations. You say he is “physically affectionate, tells me he loves me often, goes out of his way to do things to make my life easier” but then you claim you love him more than he loves you. You want “that crazy passion stage”. Unfortunately not all relationships have that and. That phase is also more about brain chemicals and infatuation. You have a man who you admit loves you but you want more. You want him to do more than show you affection, tell you he loves you AND go out of his way to make your life easier. You want him to be you, or your past lovers or someone else. And then you wonder why he is perhaps relieved when you aren’t around! You sound very high maintenance and if I was him, I doubt I would even be there still trying!
He isn’t you. He isn’t your past lovers. He is a man who it would seem to me as an outside observer reading your commentary on your relationship, loves you and cares about you. If that isn’t enough, for his sake, you should move on.