Ok, have another minute or two.
First, I meant to say above (typo) that I really just didn’t accept things the way they are.
Also, because I was habitually complaining and ruminating about “being out of coffee”, I was multiplying my suffering. First, I was out of coffee. Now, I spent the next x minutes/hours suffering because I was out of coffee. Same with the bus. But what really made the difference for me was the fact that I suddenly (with a little help from meditation) realized that all of my rumination and discomfort with the way things are was keeping me from experiencing the present. I was never in the present. Ever. And when I first realized this, I would spend time beating myself up over the fact that I was missing out on the present. But guess what? All that beating up of myself was occurring in the present, which I was now also missing.
When I was able to find myself connect more often with the present moment, I found that there were truly beautiful things happening right here and now that were only accessible because I had let some things go.
So, to be in a constant state of discomfort about the way life is is to have a model of life that is inconsistent with reality. Then, when life invariably plays out in violation of the invalid model, it’s tantrum time.
If this person is truly willing to look deeper into the nature of his/her suffering, then I would recommend vipassana.