My boyfriend and I have been dating since early September last year; however, I’ve been away from him since December except for a couple of weeks when I saw him in March. This is mainly because I couldn’t afford to stay for another semester at our college, but I’ll be living on campus with him all summer as well as all next school year.

Since our relationship has been temporarily long-distant, we obviously haven’t been able to bond as much as we did when we were physically around each other. I wrote him a few letters, sent him Christmas presents, paid for an expensive plane ticket to see him at school, and called him whenever I felt texting wasn’t enough. The thing is that when I called him, he always seemed really zoned-out, and had nothing much to say except complaining about school work. I also noticed he’s been getting more and more sarcastic, something that isn’t attractive to me.

I finally told him that I was noticing these things. I told him that I feel sometimes that he would much rather be studious and put all his hard work into research so he can become a renowned expert on Musicology, as well as a hermit-type university professor, but I also told him that I think he should consider having a more balanced life with real relationships.. He said he didn’t know how to be a good boyfriend. So I said I just wanted him to show that he cared more about our relationship, to talk to me with positive enthusiasm.

Unfortunately, it seems I brought the topic up too many times, and the last time I talked to him, he said that maybe we should just be friends. Then he said, “we can talk about it when you get here.”

I’ll be there on Monday afternoon, and I don’t know what to say or do. I don’t want our relationship to end because of this, and I really don’t want him to be opposed of ever having a relationship with anyone else because he thinks it’s more glorified to have a strong career if he can’t have both.

Sorry that was so long… Its a bit complex and I’m kicking myself for messing everything up :(