@flutherother I disagree. You need a list of the five top must haves. Things you won’t give on, so you don’t get sucked into dating someone who would never be compatible, or always be a struggle to be with. People wind up dating someone, and overlooking “faults” and then after a while they have been dating for months and years and wind up at a point of get married or break up, and very often I see people in this situation get married, and then break up within a year to those people.
I’m talking about things like honesty, respect, supportive, and then the other two might be more about personality, like spontaneous, communicative, romantic, or practical like wants children, does not want to move far from home, wants to live in many different places, etc.
The big question my husband asked me when we were dating is if I was willing to move if his career required it. He had broken up with the girl before because she would not ever consider it. I cared that he would want to pay for our kids college education, that he was not very religious, that he was ok with abortion if a fetus of ours had a serious genetic problem, that he had no debt, I could go on and on. He is everything I ever wanted, and had qualities I did not even know to want. I say be picky. Picky, and reasonable all at once.
I wonder, the girl who told you that, is she married?