What does it mean to try too hard? I think that is a condescending judgment to make. You can only say that when you have a thing and you see someone who also wants it, only they don’t seem to have whatever it takes to get it. Still, they keep trying, and you look down your nose at them and pronounce that they try too hard.
If that’s what you mean, then I don’t think it’s something our society looks down on. I think it’s something people obsessed with status look down on. They have status, and they are shaking their heads and saying that it is hopeless for others to try to be like them. They just don’t have what it takes, and they never will.
It’s terribly obnoxious. Terribly judgmental. It isn’t very pretty.
But yes, there is a portion of society that is status conscious and behaves this way. They do hold contempt for those they deem to be poseurs. Personally, I think they are even sadder than the poseurs, who at least know what they want, even if they don’t know how to get it. The people who sit there and judge don’t have real lives. They don’t do. They judge. Or they do judging, which is a kind of sycophantic, parasitic way of living.