@tups There is the possibility that this girl has aquired a boyfriend. I have had several “friends” over the years who dropped me like a hot potato once a boy or man entered the picture. Some women are very fickle like that. She might not even tell you that this has happened, because in high school, sometimes girls like to keep boyfriends secret, especially if the boy has asked her to (those kinds of boys suck).
Another possibility is that she truly is just a good school friend much like I have some terrific work friends, that I don’t socialize with outside of work. Those people can be fantastic when you are at school (or in older folks’ cases, at work) because they offer a nice respite from the rest of the crap that goes on day after day after day, but it doesn’t mean that the relationship is taken outside of the realm in which it was formed.
I used to have a group of friends at my school, but I had a different group of friends that lived in my neighborhood. Kids that were a year older or younger, or that went to a different school. But those are the kids I grew up with and that’s who I spent time with after shcool and during the summer.
I had another friend (now a former friend) who was a social butterfly and even though she liked me just fine and we had lots of great times together for many years, if and when someone else who was a little more interesting or a little more well connected came along, she’d just break dates with me. After this happened multiple times, I had to walk away. We’d had what I thought was a great friendship, but she needed to have tons of people around her, especially ones that were a little bit richer and/or better looking. She was on the way up as they say. I got left in the dust.
And the last thing I can think of is when you mentioned that a few months ago you two were a little annoyed with each other. What was that about? Even though you might have thought that that situation was over and done with, she might still have some lingering resentment.
Could be a combination of all of the above things.