I dated a guy that I’d had a crush on for a few months, then he pursued me and we started dating. His friends, who I knew, and my own friends, thought we’d be a good match. I was thrilled. Not so much when I found out that he was bi-sexual and was most likely not going to give up guys. Then he threw in this little tidbit, that he had slept with around 50 women (he was only 25 at the time). I did not become # 51.
It was a bummer because I really liked him, but he just wasn’t ready/able to be in a monagamous relationship with anyone. For me, that was extremely important. He hooked up with someone new almost immediately.
I also had crushes on 2 guys when I was quite a bit younger, who were gay. This was a little bit before the time that most people were openly gay, so it wasn’t so clear. Plus they were both super nice and they were good friends. One I went to school with and one I worked with. When I found out that they were gay, it was disapointing, but certain things seemed to make more sense when I found out. LOL.
I think I have a tendency to be attracted to gay men (because they’re so dang cute!), or men who are a little more on the feminine side (neat and clean, not loud, not into sports, a little nerdy, not into partying) but at least now, people are more likely to be openly gay so it’s a little easier to figure out what team they’re playing for, before you get too invested emotionally.
I have a number of gay male friends (only, no intentions of romance or switching up sides). I also have pretty good gaydar.