@janelle I have no idea how careful you are with money. If you grew up with a lot you may have a different idea than most people of what is “normal” spending. I am not assuming anything.
When my husband and I were dating his sister had a baby and decided to do the baptism in Italy. I thought we should go. He said, “but I don’t have any money to go shopping there.” His idea of vacation was shopping. I almost never consider the shopping. He grew up buying things without having to worry about a price tag. Nornal spending to him was very different than mine. It didn’t turn out to be a big deal. Luckily, he still valued not going into debt, so we were on the same page with that. And we both have learned from each other regarding money.
My only point is. You may be able to save more than you are. Again, I am not assuming anything. In college I spent much less than my friends. I didn’t drink, and once I moved out of the dorms I mostly cooked at home. They drank and ate out regularly, adds up.
I also recommend getting a job if you don’t have one. Part time, the money will really add up. Unless you have a very difficult course load, but business usually isn’t extremely demanding.
Don’t freak out, really. Everyone goes through these feelings. Renting an apartment varies greatly across the country. In southeast Florida you need first, last, and security all up front to rent. In North Carolina I just needed first and $200 security. Checks are not used much anymore. When you open your account you can ask the person at the bank how to fill out a check. People will help you if you ask. Sometimes children and young adults are accustomed to only going to their parents with questions, but as you get older, more and more other adults will be sources of information. Sometimes our parents don’t know everything.