Well, I am just now finding myself in this position! A matter of people telling themselves different stories.
The guy I had been seeing for two months at the beginning of the summer, in my understanding, broke up with me before I left for France. That was very clear in my mind. He said he wanted me to be able to live my life, even said he wanted me to be able to find someone who could love me like him but who was younger, and he was very busy at the time and couldn’t “be there for me” like he had been previously. It was very sweet, honestly. I thought it went well, it was amicable and we were resolved to remain friends. We even spent some good platonic time together before I left.
I’m glad I thought he was breaking up with me, because I had some life-changing experiences in France that I would not have had otherwise, because I am not a cheater…
Anyway, this guy stateside, he thought he was just initiating a break, (never said any such thing except in his own mind) and since I’ve come back, he’s been acting like nothing has changed, calling me pet names, wanting to touch me, etc., which is just sort of making me cringe because I have no romantic feelings for him anymore although I still regard him as a dear friend. He explained to me the other day that he had wanted to ‘back off a bit’ because he was scared of becoming too attached (and he never said this at the time)... But you can’t just put relationships on pause! So, I had to break up with him again this past week when he nonchalantly mentioned how I should spend the night with him >_> I really want to remain friends with him but I’m kind of scared to hang out with him now.