I think this is a pretty serious issue and it deserves some attention. If you are not feeling appreciated by your spouse the way you want to be, you need to do something about it. It is not going to fix itself. You have to talk to your partner, and you may benefit from the help of a therapist to do it.
This kind of thing can lead to a gradually widening rift between you. Suddenly, one day, you may find yourself not knowing who your partner is or what they are thinking, and you may miss them horribly, or maybe you don’t even care any more.
In my case, the sex slowly disappeared. That was really bad for me, since I communicate physically. She does, too, although less sexually. But somehow, without sex, it seemed like we couldn’t touch in any other way, either. I’m sure there are many reasons for that, but I won’t talk about it now.
I’m not sure why you use the starring role metaphor when it really seems like you want better quality attention from from your spouse. This is not a selfish thing. This is a couple thing, and it hurts both of you and the marriage when one of you is not getting what he or she needs. I would encourage you to heed the warning signs and try to take action now to improve things. The longer you wait, the harder it will get, and the more likely it is that a break will be a big break, as in divorce.