@bridold – Ugh! I saw your picture and you’re not fat. That guy was dense. As for those “honest” people, there’s honest and then there’s brutally honest. My husband is often the latter, which leads me to my answer to this question…
We were having trouble with our pond filter and I was trying to help him work on it. There is not much in my life that should lead him to think that I am well-equipped to help with these things (at least in terms of knowledge) yet he insists on my help. Anywho, he asked me to turn off the filter, I went to the box where the switches were and couldn’t figure out which one was which. (They weren’t all labeled.) I hesitated too long, he got mad, stalked over, flipped the unmarked switch and said, “You are so incompetent.” I was so mad I wanted to push him in with the goldfish and so upset that I wanted to cry. I did neither. I just stared at him for a second, said “Okay, let’s get this job finished.” He apologized, claiming he didn’t mean it and that he was just mad at my delaying him doing the work. I said, “No, you meant it, but it’s okay, at least now I know.” He continued to try to apologize, but I told him to stop, that I was okay.
And yes, we’re still married.