To this day actually, we will never know what roles more feminine men played as cavemen. My best guess would be they were more in tune with beautifying the human body back then, or serving as a hybrid, capable of having the man strength and hunting abilities yet also being extremely nurturing. (I felt I had to elaborate on your feminist statement/idea in your details)
I definitely still have those instincts. You throw me in the wild, I will know how to hunt, how to cook, make fire, defend our territory, make alliances, etc. How? By merely playing outside as a kid and exploring my territory, catching bugs, navigating through trails, observing nature, memorizing all that. Not really by having read a survival guide. I think it’s basic common sense, yet only some humans (maybe 1–4 people?) would know how to fire on all cylinders when thrown into the wild. But you know what? That’s totally ok. Because it’s most likely that those who had the most wisdom or showed the most courage via hunting, or creating boats for travel etc that would be admired and thus followed. We still are in nature. A man made nature but what we do is for survival. If it means becoming civilized so that the likely hood of our species as a whole is to exist I’m for it.