Hard to say. What’s the difference between giving someone heartache and breaking their heart? Sometimes, when you get to the end of a relationship, one of you gives up first and calls it over. Does that mean the other person’s heart is broken? Or was yours broken, ages before, and it just kept hurting while you played out the string?
There is only one relationship in my life that I can think of where she loved me more than I loved her, and when I made that clear to her, it broke her heart. That happened 35 years ago. Later, she became a friend.
I don’t think there was anything she could have done to win me. Maybe if I had known what I later learned, I would have been more interested in her. But at the time, I was just coming off a major heart break, and it was a kind of rebound thing. I was in no place to give my heart to someone else. Not that I knew that, but it was true, I think.