@Jeruba Actually, I have no one. The only neice and nephew is on my husband’s side, and his family is not great at being close, I would never think they would help. I honestly don’t know exactly how I am goingto deal with being older, or ill, or unable to care for myself. And, yes, I want to treat her as I would want to be treated.
@all My other family members do help care for her. My sister shares the biggest burden, because she lives close by and she is a nurse, and she works for the company that sends my aunt her caregivers.
My aunt is only 65. Her memory is a little lacking, but really not that much. She still can carry on conversations about interesting complex topics with no problem if they are based in old knowledge, but she is weak, tires easily, and is in very bad chronic pain. When I say based in old knowledge, she was very with it in her day. She has a masters, she had a career running a foundation, she has always been interested in history, politics, women’s rights, health, animal rights, she has travelled practically around the world. New things like computers and other new technologies she is a little confused about, but really not bad at all. She can use a computer fine, but knowing things like wifi, routers, how it all works, that sort of thing she doesn’t. I barely do.
Thanks everyone for your answers.