Allowing them to do whatever they want, no matter how inappropriate, just to get them to stop whining. This action never teaches children what is appropriate or inappropriate.
Giving them treats or presents to get them to stop whining. Because it teaches them that if they whine, they’ll always get a treat or a present. So they never learn how to control themselves. They learn how to manipulate people.
Not teaching children manners. Look around, you’ll see the result of that everywhere, from your dining establishments, to stores to the freeway or the line at the grocery store.
Not getting your children extra help (whether it be from a therapist, a coach or a tutor) when they need it. Parents can’t always do it all, and some kids need extra help and parents aren’t always experts in certain areas.
Not teaching your children compassion. Again, look around and see the results of this little problem.
Not teaching your kids about good health and nutrition. Just because it’s easier to feed your kids fried chicken nuggets and soda, doesn’t mean that it’s a good idea. Look at the obesity and diabetes rates which have skyrocketed in the past few years. Some diseases start in childhood. Some diseases can be prevented or at least held off if the child has a decent diet and gets regular checkups and immunizations.
Not allowing a child to move forward towards his/her own natural talents or abilities in favor of something that the parent wants or expects them to do. Forcing a kid to go into accounting when he/she has the soul and talents of a painter is going to eff them up.