This question is so vague and confusing that I’m not sure if I have any relevant experience. I have only had one relationship with someone who seems to attract male attention from random admirers. But it was kind of funny, because the more I loved her, the more attractive she got. My love made her feel good, and when she felt good, she lit up, and when she lit up, guys would notice, and stare or whistle or make comments. Now when I was there. But she would tell me about it. It made me proud of her. Never bothered me.
But most of my girlfriends were serious women only. They never got into vivacious mode, and they didn’t attract that kind of attention. I loved them because they were interesting, but eventually their intellectuality turned out to be a problem, since they weren’t that in touch with their bodies and feelings.
I’ve also had numerous virtual relationships with married women. We’re all pretty much looking for the same thing: a way to stop being lonely. Our marriages have become less that what we might have wanted. We meet someone who is interested; we start talking; we assuage each other’s loneliness for a little while and then we have a fight or push each other away, and it’s over.
There are, I’m sure, problems with virtual relationship, but these were also useful, I think, for all parties involved. It’s better than breaking up a marriage for nothing. Eventually I discussed this with my wife, which led us to counseling and other such treats. We’re still together, and she is pretty happy with me, despite all that we went through.