Oh @Coloma—not that I would ever have a pole in my house, but it is incredible exercise and you have to be very skilled to do this stuff. In other parts of the world, they dance with poles and it doesn’t have the sexual connotations. It’s just prudish America that sees sex in everything.
Granted, the pole is used in strip clubs and it is all about sex, but my point is that it doesn’t have to be. It’s all how you see it. You can see it as an exercise tool, or you can see it as a horrible icky sex thing. Up to you.
If I had a pole, I’d want my daughter to see it as a prop for an acrobatic routine, not as a sex thing.
Surely you were open with your daughter about sex? You don’t strike me as the kind of person who would be ashamed of your relationship with your gardener. I mean, she is your daughter, so there is such a thing as TMI, but if anyone were to be healthily open about her sexual relationships, it seems to me you’d be the one who would talk about it all, just in a matter of fact way. No?