@Yeahright Lol. I don’t envy you on the parent bit. I told my sister she is going to have deal with my dad when the time comes. She wasn’t too happy.
@Coloma Excellent ideas. I loathe guilt trips and manipulative twists. The more often they are used the less effective and sympathetic I am, still I could shore up a few areas more securely. I will have to try that out. Indeed very good advice, and good boundaries.
@starsofeight I share your views on compassion and kindness. It can never be an overused tactic. Though people may mistake kindness for weakness the ones who practice it know it is actually a position of strength, but can at times be turned against you.
@marinelife I have in moments of necessity avoided my family very adroitly. It is now expected of me. You will get no arguments from me.
@Bellatrix I used to scared of the direct approach. What the heck was I scared of exactly. Lol. I still find it easier to avoid or tolerate people that I don’t have much contact with. With it is a practice that I need to refine.
@YARNLADY Sympathy for you. I am reluctant on the idea of children because they just demand so much darn work and it is so easy to screw up.
@ucme Lol.
@Dutchess_III By all means do things in small measure. Healing process takes precedence