I am both extremely confident and completely unconfident at the same time. I have absolute faith that I am right. I have absolute faith that no one else will see it that way.
So, for example, I’m willing to say things on fluther that not a lot of people say. I’ve just accepted that I totally believe what I say and that most people will think I’m wrong, and there’s not a lot that can be done about it. I can’t change my beliefs. All I can do is express myself as best I know how and hope I manage to get one or two people to think twice about something.
But I tend to piss a lot of people off. I think they blame my attitude for getting angry, but I suspect the truth is simply that we really disagree with each other. I don’t believe in this disagreeing nicely business. If we disagree, we disagree. We are enemies on that issue. There is no being nice. It’s war. Take no prisoners. That sort of thing.
There’s no going around our emotions and we are programmed to want everything to be nice between us, or to hate each other. It’s a survival technique. An outmoded one, but evolution takes so long to catch on.