@burntbonez I know you don’t know who I am and would not presume to make judgements on me. You seem pretty careful of that through past posts. But I interpreted ‘that kind of gal’ to mean any woman who enjoyed sex. Whatever additional preconceptions you put on that as well.
As a woman who happens to enjoy sex I tried to approach this as not directed to me but involving a category of people I probably fit in to. Aware that you aren’t younger I was then able to consider that conceptions are based first on environment and influences and can and is only usually adapted after exposure.
Given that the woman’s movement happened in the 60’s and the dissonance and mixed messages that still effect and surround women I decided this was unfortunate viewpoint considering any woman has the potential to enjoy sex and no stereotype can be ascribed.
I also realized the intention of your statement was not meant to offend. So I could even as a strong supporter of women not take offense to the label assigned that historically has negative connonations.
I admit saying no offense does seem passive aggressive. I meant merely to be clear. But I wanted to point out the fallacy and the lack of hope in your statements as well and I did this rather bluntly and given that there is lack of body langauge I added it as measure to give clarity and context to what I said. Though in hindsight I probably should have omitted the last paragraph or two altogether.
I added the last part as more info that even women who enjoy sex have restraint and don’t have to be controlled by their passions any more then men do or for any other pleasurable indulgences that either sex partakes.
It is hard to know how to effectively communicate. For me any way it is something I struggle with. I am convinced that I just need more practice at it. I am used to reading books or writing for myself having inner dialogues or ones with pets or close friends. I do a fair bit of reading between the lines.
Sometimes I even forget I can ask questions other then in my head. This leads to much confusion and flawed premises, as you’ve witnessed. It drives my accountant friend nuts I wonder if that is coincidence.
You see this is also an example because now I am overexplaining. I am aware of this and yet I know I don’t want to erase the text or edit myself.