The feeling and realization I was middle-age hit me literally when I turned 50. I am 52 now. My 40’s were great, a combination of being physically attractive and a sense of self-confidence and inner peace.
@Shippy I feel more tired now, but it’s not surprising considering I don’t exercise much. I don’t date men in their 50’s they are too old for me! Shame on you girl! I don’t like it when guys our age say the same about us. I, on the contrary, couldn’t be with anyone younger, as I feel they can’t see the world from my perspective. You say Old age sucks. I don’t agree with you. I like where I am right now despite all the changes. I wouldn’t want to be younger. I take aging as a natural process of life. Why would I want to be younger—or older for that matter? I am what I am because I was born in 1960 not before, not after. I don’t have children, I am single, and I don’t have a SO in my life, so I guess that could be why I see no reason to want to be younger. I dunno.
@Pachyderm_In_The_Room I finally felt I was truly a grown-up… I agree with you. The feeling of having a lot of experience in life is great for me. I know how to handle most situations in a way I couldn’t in my 30s.
@Coloma major points for lashing @Shippy to the fence and hitch up the mule team to stretch her legs out. What a vision!
@Shippy On a more serious note though …he is some 17 years my junior…I shall grow old disgracefully and he will pull my legs. I think that could be one of the reasons why you are feeling the way you do. IMO the two of you are at two different stages in life and this could be bothering you although you might not think it’s bothering you. You are more aware of your age than you would be with someone your age. I don’t mean this in a bad way, please don’t take offense. I also dated someone 17 yrs my junior. I was 41 he was 24 or so. It went really well for a few years, we had a great time and were in love for a while; but in the back of our minds we knew we couldn’t stay together forever. He had to have experiences with people his age and at the end of the day I too preferred to be with people my age. I never met his parents. We both felt it was not going to be socially acceptable and we were not prepared to go against the world to defend our relationship. I am sure that if I had a 24 yo child, I wouldn’t want him/her to date a 40 yo.
@burntbonez … half my life is over. My years are running out. I feel that too, but it is a fact that doesn’t make me sad. I don’t want to live forever, nor do I want to stay young forever. I don’t think life is that great anyway, so I accept aging as the natural progression of my life and not as something bad that is happening to me. There is nothing that I want to do now that makes me wish I were younger. I think I’ve done a lot.