I just walked away from a business arrangement because of someone like this. I chose to not tolerate her any more. It was easy, and hard, because other people were affected by my decision, but I make it a point keep business business and personal feelings personal. I never confronted her about how I felt. I am not her sister, girlfriend or shrink. Did I get upset with her lying, cheating and self consumed chatter? Yep. That wouldn’t have been a problem, but she joined the managing committee, of course, and her groundless self-aggrandizement was seen by 6 members, but 2 continued to take her side. All 6 of us quit, leaving the three of them to start covering rent by themselves in 2 months. Harsh, but we did give them alternative choices, several times. ‘Miss Bossy’ is standing her ground, the other two sunk too much capital into the business to walk away and they are stuck with her and a shop that now going to be run by one of these types of people.
My time and energy is too precious to me to argue and try to help people like this become more self aware. It would be a waste of my time and energy because there is NOTHING I could possibly say to this person that she wouldn’t find a way to manipulate, justify or turn against me. I am not a shrink, so it is best that I walk away with my dignity and integrity in tact, avoiding drama.