My ex-MIL was a nightmare. When we first married, she walked into our house anytime she felt like it—caught me changing clothes and watched me the whole time. Walked in on my ex husband while he was on the toilet and started a conversation. She tried to make me jealous by treating him like a boyfriend- even went as far as grabbing his butt in a sexual, not playful, way. She would call 20 times a day and whine that she was being ignored. She did everything she could to manipulate herself into a position of power mostly by ignoring boundaries, guilt tripping and playing the victim. She was a sick, insecure person and later I realized her son used the same strategies—ignoring boundaries and playing the victim. Ugh!!
In my current relationship, I love my boyfriend’s family. They have been welcoming, friendly, fun to be with, and just wonderful. I can’t say the same for my mom… sigh. I think she’s gun-shy because of my ex-marriage.