My mom was abusive, but I never thought, or figured, that I hated her at the time. Mostly I was just dead scared of her, and answered to her when she spoke in ways you might answer to a very strict teacher when you don’t know the answer; hope that’s what they wanted to hear, lol. I might have said I hated her when I got older, but she disappeared from my life, and that’s good enough for me. She did try to contact me a bit after, but she gave up quickly enough, and I never tried to contact her.
I would have never said that to my dad, but my did kicked ass. Once though I was really angry at him and yelled ’‘fuck you’’ right in his face. That’s the first and last time I ever did that. He was pissed, however he was reasonable, we talked shit over after, and he made me understand things, instead of batting me upside the head, like my mom did. But really, she deserved the fuck you, not my dad. So I guess saying you wouldn’t say ’‘I hate you’’ to a parent but you said fuck you to them really isn’t any better, but when I lived with him he had to suffer through some of that pent up rage I had since he was the polar opposite of my mom. He understood that though. Hell he even took me shopping the day after that incident haha.