I’ve been working at this place for about 6 months now. About 4 months ago, I noticed this guy at work and he would smile at me as he passed by. I’d smile back and this went on til about 2 months ago when he came over and introduced himself. Now, I only work weekends at this place, so it became a kind of Friday night thing, we’d meet up and chat a bit, and over the last month, things were getting to the point that I thought he was going to ask me out. Which is fine, cause I wouldn’t mind that. Now comes the problem.

Last Friday night, we went for something to drink at the local coffee shop and ended up in his vehicle talking. After about 15 minutes, he stopped talking and went for a kiss. I was okay with that until I felt his tongue in my mouth. I guess I tensed up, cause I’m not used to that, and he said something along the lines of I wasn’t putting much effort into the kissing. Plus the fact that we haven’t even been on a real date and he had his tongue in my mouth? I just think he rushed things a little much. Long story short, I had to go back to work, he was finished for the night and I have no way of contacting him outside of work. I kind of rushed back into work, thinking I wouldn’t see him til the next Friday.

Sunday night I unexpectedly worked and seen him in there. He apologized for kissing me, that he thought I was uncomfortable with it and blamed it on his hormones and that he was too aggressive. I didn’t want to talk too much where we were standing, as there were co-workers near by and I really don’t want to broadcast the fact that we were kissing. I kind of told him things would be okay and we would talk next week cause I was finished with my shift and he was just starting his. As I was leaving, I felt bad that I rushed things. I left a note on his car with my cell #‘s and said if he wanted to talk to phone. I just wanted to explain to him that it wasn’t the kissing that bothered me so much, it was the style of kissing(the tongue) that made me uncomfortable. He hasn’t phoned and now I feel stupid for having left my #‘s. I now feel like maybe I should avoid him all together on Friday night and just let things lie. So that’s my question. Should I avoid him? Should I tell him why I was uncomfortable? Does he even want to really know, considering he hasn’t phoned? I’m a mess, I don’t know what to do. Part of me wants to just avoid him, the other wants to let him know that I would kiss him again. All around, I just feel stupid. Any advice on the direction I should take would be appreciated.

Cate