She will expect you to act the way you have in the past with the friends she’s chosen. Have you previously tried to steer her away from friends who you didn’t like them or their families? If you’ve tried to steer her away from any that you’ve deemed unsavory, she will likely try to avoid having you know anything about the kids she has a crush on or might be “going out” with. If you’ve been able to have an open and honest relationship with her, yet still respect her to use her own judgement, she is likely to be more willing to let you know what is going on in her personal life. Does she have a history of having crushes on boys? You are assuming that she will be dating them. What if she wants to date a girl?
How old is she? My son was getting lots of attention from the girls (and yes, girls are the more aggressive pursuers in pre-teen heterosexual relationships these days) starting in the 5th and 6th grades. Some are having sexual relations at 13. I kept a log of his AIM chats (this was in the early 2000s), and when he was 14 I came a cross a chat in which he asked a female classmate if the rumor he’d heard that she could fist herself was true, and her reply was that she only did it once. At 15, when camera phones first came out, he was getting pornographic (not just naked) photos sent to him by a 14-year-old girl – the term “sexting” hadn’t been coined yet. Around the same time, I came across a conversation where a female friend (they don’t even worry about “dating”, they “hook up”) was arranging for her cousin to give her a ride to see my son so she could give him a blow job.
It was incredibly difficult for me to tell him that it was wrong, when these girls were throwing themselves at him. How was I supposed to teach a 15-year-old to say “No” when the previous President of the United States had been unable to do so? Regardless, I am glad I had a boy. I wish you luck.