@rooeytoo I get what you are saying but I also get what @WillWorkForChocolate is saying. Maybe in your relationship @rooetoo the respect level is a little different and tolerable from @WillWorkForChocolate.‘s
My sister and her husband have a relationship where if she wants something or he wants something they get it they do not ask eachother, I personally think from the outside their relationship is totally one sided and I often wonder why they are together because they never look like they work together as a team..do you get me?
The husband is a borderline hoarder and has clogged every inch of space inside and out of their brand new home with stuff he buys, while she just sits back and allows him to run her over, so she got a dog out of the deal because she said so and I am sorry but the poor dog has suffered living in what to me is an unstable, drama filled home and it is a pitbull of all the breeds to have :/ the dog is already showing signs of mistrust because their is no one in the home that it can depend on. Her kids and shes got 3 boys, can play both parents against eachother because they always play for seperate teams. They all disrespect eachother even the dog shows signs of it. At least this is what I see.
My relationship was different. My husband has passed away but when he was alive we had 10 years of happy married life and 19 years altogether, I never had this problem up until the last car that we bought when my husband was sick and I made the bad choice to make the decision without my husband one that I would find out later that he was not happy with and all it did was cause unwanted tension between us until the day he could no longer mentally think about it and then he died. My daughter is a very respectful girl and actually just left for a march break trip. I said to her, “don’t cause trouble” she looked at me, shes 17 and said “mom, when have you ever known me to cause trouble.” It’s true she has been the perfect kid.
The poor decision I made has haunted me until this day going over and over in my mind about the what ifs and should haves, of course that is the price one pays when tragedy befalls upon them.
Does this make any sense?