Wanting More - Am I asking too much of my boyfriend?
My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over 2 years now, and I love him. However, I’ve had very small issues with him in the beginning. At times, I wish he’d be more romantic with little surprises here and there, a sweet text, etc. Those tiny issues began to add up and made worse because he’s not always very verbally expressive about how he feels about me and a few months before our 1 year anniversary, he had to move upstate with his parents (about a 3-hour drive away). The lack of more romantic gestures and his communication issues weighed down on me a lot. From not having gotten me anything for our 1 year anniversary (no card or anything) to waiting days to contact me after a fight, I struggled a bit. But I argued in his defense because he also made the effort to visit when he could (about every 2 weeks when possible due to him working upstate) and spent most of that time with me rather than with friends. We’ve talked multiple times about the things I’ve had problems with. He’s cried a few times in remorse.
Now he’s finally moved back after having been away for a little more than a year. It’s been 3 weeks since he moved back and yet, I don’t feel entirely satisfied. He’s been busy with an internship and trying to find other work but I’ve been annoyed that he’s only been able to see me on weekends. Is it too much to want to be able to see him on weekdays too? I don’t want to just be a weekend girlfriend. He’s OK about texting on the weekdays I don’t see him…but just OK. I understand he’s settling in, which makes me feel selfish for wanting more from him now that he’s back. I feel selfish for struggling to share his time with friends. I feel selfish for wanting him to talk to me more. When we’re together, everything feels fine. When we’re not, I feel like there’s something lacking. What do I do?
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