I used to. When I was in therapy, the therapist told me I was living my life as if I were constantly “waiting for the other shoe to drop”, and she was right. I lived in fear of the next bad thing to come my way, because, in my experience, there had always been a ‘next bad thing’. It was both a function of my life’s history and the crippling anxiety I went into therapy for in the first place.
Thank goodness I got the anxiety under control. Of course there is always a ‘next bad thing’ waiting for us. But without the anxiety issues, I was able to realize that I’d survived all the other bad things that had already happened, and I’d likely survive the next one, too. More importantly, I realized that there is also always a ‘next good thing’. I’m now mostly able to put things into better perspective, and deal with whatever type of thing is actually happening now. Whatever is actually in my control. What isn’t in my control just…happens – whether I worry about it or not.