I am in the process of splitting from my husband who did not want to have children. I was okay with not having children and in fact, during a couple of pregnancy scares, was horrified at the thought of having children. I fear losing my freedom and am terrified that financially, I won’t be able to support a child (although I make more money than a lot of people with children). I love children, but I feel that the relationship that I have with my nephews and nieces is enough for me.

Now that I am getting divorced, I feel like I am losing my family (my husband) and that makes me really sad. I started to look into international adoption and contemplating what it would be like to have a child and my own family. There are times when I think it would be really great and other times I balk at the sacrifices (money and time). I am at an age, where I need to make the decision now. What confuses me is that other people say they didn’t know how great it was to have children until they had their own. Will that happen to me too? What is your advice?