I suggest that you write out all of the questions you might have, not as they regard you and your case, but just “in general”, and discuss those questions with the therapist at your first one-on-one meeting with her. Be both general and specific, in order to be sure that you understand the parameters of the relationship.
You might consider asking, also, “What does the state require of you in <whatever example you want to give as a hypothetical>?” and then follow that up with “What will you do if I tell you that <same hypothetical example> applies to me, but I don’t want that to be revealed yet?” In addition, be sure to ask, “Will you have to report to others about my progress, lack of progress or any of the details that I disclose about myself outside of the legal state requirements?” or something like that. In other words, be sure that you understand what the therapist is legally obligated to disclose – you can’t change that – and what the therapist is ethically permitted to disclose, since those are the margins that you can sometimes negotiate boundaries of your own. That is, boundaries that the two of you can agree upon.
I believe that a competent and experienced therapist would strongly welcome such questions, especially as they are indicative of a person who wants to participate fully in the process and has enough sense of self, self-esteem and self-preservation (no matter what else may be going on in your life) that your reputation and your standing with your family and others around you is important to you.
I would strongly recommend that until you are satisfied with the therapist’s responses, or at least understand the boundaries of the doctor-patient relationship thoroughly, that you not mention any of your case except in terms of a hypothetical “What if I told you… ?” nature.