@jonsblond Oh I know, my mom had a broken hip (she fell off the toilet), she had constant mini seizures, TA’s, she got aggressive and wanted to bash us but we dealt with each thing one by one. I never once heard a doctor say she was a write off. But, I do recall a woman who owned a hospice saying she would be better off there (that was when she was hopeless). The women of course stood to earn a good few thousand a month for the care. I did notice that all her patients although well cared for, were bed-ridden, helpless, spoon fed and looked like they were ready to kick the bucket.
I felt like we had a mountain to climb with my mom. But, we did it. She was such fun, and even though brain damaged we learned to all laugh even her. I had a mom for an extra ten years. I didn’t listen to the ‘shit’ doctors were hinting at or other people who were in it for the money.
She was my mom, full stop and if she had us, jokes and a hint of a normal life and she was there for the party.
I never forget one visit to a brain ward, they asked her if she would like a drink, she said only if there is a swivel stick in it!!