My mother lives on her own in a senior residential facility. She’s 89, she has no desire to live with any of her kids. Her next move would be to someplace with attendant care if she declines.
My grandfather (her dad) lived with us from his age of 78 (I was 10) until he was 92. But my parents were overseas and none of the grand kids were in a position to have him come live with us. The last five years of his life he was in assisted living, and then in a nursing home.
My girlfriend’s mom is young, just 74, and my GF and I have discussed this, but no decision made yet. I’m not opposed, but it would be a big change for my GF. I think we’ll have a talk this week instead of continuing to postpone a decision or make a plan.