Let’s assume you feel safe for this Q and that the people participating in the situations I pose are strangers.

If you can’t reach something in the supermarket are you glad when someone offers to get it for you?

If you have your hands full are you happy to let someone else open a door for you? Does gender matter?

If you are disabled in anyway are you glad when someone offers to help when it quite obviously directly relates to your disability, or do dislike that indirectly your disability is being acknowledged?

If you are a woman do the typical hold the door, lift something heavy for you, let you go first bother you? Maybe some of them do and some don’t for differing reasons.

If you are a man maybe any type of indication you might need help is negative? Worse coming from a woman maybe? I am particularly interested in the man’s perspective on this. Like if a man is in a wheelchair or short and a woman offers to reach for something does it hurt the man’s ego? Or, if a woman offers to help a man who is lifting something very heavy does it bother them? Men seem fine with letting a woman or man help them with their coat from what I can tell.

Do you like some offers, but not others?